I am not the nicest person you'll ever meet. I'm straightforward when it comes to what I have to say. I piss people off if they're not ready to hear the truth. I get annoyed at lazy people, people who don't know how to manage their time and kids who are simply immature. To top all that I don't change. I may grow up and mature (hopefully), but the basic personality that I have has not, does not, and will not change. I have a handful of best friends who knows me as I am and are able to accept me as I am. I've also met gazillion others throughout my life who just couldn't take it. I've always lived my life that way and that's the reason the handful of best friends I have are who they are. If you're gonna come up to me and tell me to change my personality because "it's for my own good", then you should really look somewhere else. There's very little chance (let's just say no chance) of me changing for you. Change only happens from within. In other words, I have to decide to change myself. Nobody can't change me. If you can't accept me for who I am then we're just not meant for each other. Plain and simple. I, too, point out to my friends if I sense a part of their personality that prevents me from getting closer to him/her, but I won't expect him/her to change for me. I just share my thoughts without any expectation.

Same thing is true for non-platonic relationships. I will try and accept you as who you are. I will not ask you to change for me, cuz I think that's the most unrealistic expectation one can have of your partner. I HAVE to be able to do that in order for the relationship to go on. If I realize that I can't, then it's over; We're just not meant for each other. I simply won't feel comfortable with anybody whom I can't accept for who they are. I may be able to share my thoughts, but I simply will not expect that to have an impact. My attitude towards relationship is based on 0 expectation. Given the 0 expectation I have for a relationship I'll be able to feel for myself whether or not it's going to work out. If both parties have 0 expectation from one another, compromising comes naturally and the point at which one cannot compromise further also becomes very clear. If you're even remotely considering spending the rest of your life with this person, you better seriously give that some thought.


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