Here's my stab at the definition of being Naive. If you think you've gotten a complete grasp of a person by simply catching up a few times a year (of course you'll tell everyone else that you've known this person for several years), then man... you're pretty damn naive. I think I'm pretty naive, but I think I'm a bit better than some (Yeah, I'm a pretty cocky one, eh?).

I constantly think and rethink to try and understand why people behave a certain way in certain situations, so the duration in which I assume some knoweldge of a person's personality is relatively short. Short as in a few days at the most. I can not even begin to consider telling somebody else that I know someone's personality until I have really spent a significant amount of quality time with this other person (and I actually have to love and care for this person as well, cuz otherwise I wouldn't really want to bother spending that extra effort anyway. ). I can state a fact about the consequences of somebody's behavioral characteristics, but I can never really say that I know that person's personality. For example, I may get hurt because a friend of mine behaves a certain way to me at certain times, but that's the result of that person's behavior at that point in time. Whether or not there are gazillion other variables that have effected his/her behavior at that instance is NEVER known. To conclude that the behavior was a result of a deeply rooted personality trait is beyond my comprehension, really. Yes, people may repeat the same behavior, but that doesn't make it that person's personality. Have you ever considered the fact that YOU get on his/her nerves? And that YOU're the only pain in the ass that makes him/her behave that way? I'm sure you've witnessed time and time again how there are people who's liked by some, but hated by some at the same time. People treat people differently. It's a fact! Accpet it and move on, would you?

Me, for example, used to be so friggin harsh to people I didn't get along with. Now I've gotten a bit better at it and I can actually try and accomodate even if I don't like that person. But if the person gets on my nerves once in a while I stop accomodating and treat that person like crap (just like how would have done before). The side effect of that is that this person has no clue that I really don't enjoy spending time with him/her, and tries to be my "friend" by pointing out those instances where I treated him/her like crap and how I should "fix" it to be this better person. Gimme a goddamn break....

People judge people all the time, I have long accepted that as a fact of life. What amazes me is how long those judgements last. There are professors, researchers, scientists who's been studying their asses off for several decades trying to understand a fraction of human psychology, and they have only gotten so far into it... And for some person you've only known for, say, 10 years to tell you that he/she alreadys knows what your personality is like is simply amazing.... It's not even worth talking to these types of people on this subject. It's simply a waste of time. I'd much rather spend time thinking of ways how I can better understand the ones I really love. These are the types of people who don't spend time trying to understand a person. They simply assume knoweldge by a few examples. It's a shame how many people treat relationship like learning how to solve differential equations or something. Relationship is a study that requires an infinite amount of patience and you have to also go into it realizing that you may never understand it. Well, of course you may be 100 times more intelligent than I am. In which case lemme know so I can personally worship you on a regular basis.